A while back my husband suggested we sent the girls for self defense classes. Immediately, I was excited and thought since I am a girl, too it included me! I saw it as a mom daughters adventure and together we can learn how to protect ourselves and fight the enemy off. My dream was short lived. My husband gave me that look that he reserves for me. I am apparently the only one in the whole wide world that can make him angry, manages to annoy him beyond words and can make him scream… Truth be told, although this is quite beside the point, I have never heard him scream at anyone but me. Not the kids, nor the cats or dogs can bring him to raise his voice. I however, just need to leave the house and go to the mall or go online to my favorite friend Amazon.
Anyway, about the self-defense classes. He gives me the look and then tells me in his polite voice, that I am not included in the classes. Self-defense classes teaches people to defend themselves, not how to assault someone without getting hurt. I look at him, obviously not understanding what he says to me. I think it is wonderful to be able to defend yourself and if you need to apply the knowledge differently sometimes, the so be it. With a sigh he continues to tell me, his wife, the mother of his children, that I should rather enroll in Anger Management classes. He was concerned that if I went for self-defense classes, I might use my skills to sort people out… I was so offended, I could not respond. I do not have anger issues, I just have a little temper. And I have it under control, most of the time. Yes, I scream when I am angry, but it makes me feel better. I get it out in the open and then it is done with. I should point out though, that my screaming and getting it out in the open is reserved to my family. I have never screamed at a friend, and I will never scream at a friend. I did scream over the phone at the AT&T guy a couple months ago, but it was not my fault. If you have AT&T, you will understand why it drove me to screaming. I really do not like screaming, it hurts my throat and makes me feel inferior. I try to avoid it.
I did not join an anger management class, nor a self-defense class. I know when I am angry. I am angry when it is winter, and I cannot go for a bike ride. And I am angry when my house is not sparkling clean or my family does not keep things in its place. I am angry when people ignore basic traffic rules and I am angry when AT&T and any other company for that matter, is incompetent. I’m angry when I feel my time has been wasted. Does that mean I have anger issues and need anger management? I think that just makes me fairly normal and human and in touch with who I am!