I sat at a coffee bar today and watched people walking by. I have never seen so many men carrying bunches of flowers before!
Sipping my coffee and watching them, I remembered when my husband and I first started dating. We started dating in October of 2001. And one of the first things I asked him was to never bring me anything on Valentine’s day….
Why? Because I want him to think of me at any random time and bring me flowers or chocolates. I don’t want him to be influenced by a man made day called Valentine’s day or induced by the media to bring me flowers or chocolates. According to https://www.graphicmaps.com/which-holiday-is-the-most-expensive, 18.9 billion US dollars are spend on Valentine’s day. Why? Would you not rather your loved one bring you flowers or any gift on a random day of the year, just because that significant other thought of you?
Well, that is me. I want my husband to see something, feel something or just think of me at any random day or time, and surprise me with something. I dread the idea of expecting something just because it is in my opinion a money-making day. It is so commercialist, it has nothing to do with love.
In fact, Valentine’s day make hypocrites of us. We do what is expected of us, and not necessarily what is in the heart. Everybody else is buying flowers and chocolates today, so I have to do it too! Reality check. I did not buy my husband anything. We have been together for 18 years, and I have never bought him anything on Valentine’s day, nor has he bought me anything or taken me out to dinner on Valentine’s day. He knows that I would not value the gesture at all and would rather be quite disappointed in him for being so cheap.
Valentine’s day is nothing but a commercial day and that is why industries love it. They advertise and have specials and almost make you feel guilty for not feeling it and participating. To my fellow anti-Valentine’s day mates- as the Australians would say- I salute you. Stay strong and buy him/her those flowers tomorrow or on any other day but Valentine’s day!